Vocation vs Profession: How to Achieve Success in Our ProfessionNovember 17, 2020
Are you unhappy at work? Did you know that issues around your work and profession can be related to your family system?
If you do not love what you do and it feels like a struggle, or you do not feel you are being remunerated fairly, or perhaps you feel like you are in a “toxic environment”, or are experiencing conflicts with bosses or colleagues or generally dread going to work, you may be living out an unconscious loyalty that is preventing you from thriving in your professional life.
Check to see if any these resonate with you:
- Parent’s or ancestor’s (unfulfilled) desire – If your profession was chosen by your parents but your heart is not in it either because they would have liked to have become that themselves and didn’t or because they felt it would be a “safe” career for you, your current profession may feel like it takes a lot of effort and struggle for you and that you continue to stay unhappy at work
- Rebelling against your parents – If you have picked your career for the main reason of opposing your parents, rather than following your own vocation, this also affects your success
- Career as compensation – For example becoming a lawyer because there was injustice in your family or a job in social services to protect children because there was child abuse in your family system
Unconscious dynamics that were unresolved in our family will show up at work. For example, if you have been told that you are the second child in your sibling line and there was a prior or later stillbirth or abortion, you are not in the right place in your family, and chances are you may have difficulties with your position at work as well. Relationships with colleagues’ mirror bonds with our siblings. Relationships with bosses may be mirroring the bonds with our parents.
In family constellations we observe that success and fulfillment in our profession can happen more easily when we have taken our mother and our father into our heart and everything that came from them. Healing the bond with our parents is a deep soul journey that allows us to connect with the plenitude of life itself and become in tune with personal and professional fulfillment.