Frequently Asked Questions
They are a very powerful solution-focused process that reveal unconscious entanglements that we have with our family of origin which are affecting us today. Once these hidden dynamics are brought to our conscious awareness, they are shifted and we feel a sense of freedom from issues that were holding us back before.
When we set up a constellation, the seeker will briefly state the issue they want to work on, without getting into their story about why or how it happened. He or she will be asked to choose representatives of family members or aspects of the issue and place them spatially in relation to one another according to what feels right to them.
I would recommend that you wait at least a month before setting up another constellation. If you would like to deepen your process, it is recommended that you participate in as many workshops as you feel drawn to as an observer or a representative. Constellations in groups don’t just benefit the seeker, but the entire group present.
Keep in mind that we don’t talk a lot about your issue because this work focuses on the subconscious rather than on the story we tell about the issue. Also, the group commits to confidentiality.
Individual sessions are suggested for people who are uncomfortable in a group setting or who feel they need extra support after a constellation.
- Do not go over the steps of your constellation; in doing so you will try to interpret them through analyzing what happened and this work goes far beyond the realm of the mind.
- Keep the last image observed in your heart as a seed that has been planted within you and will grow with time.
- Trust that you got what you needed and were ready for and that you picked the right constellator and experience for you.
- Refrain from talking about the steps of your own constellation to others as this may dilute the soul work done. Wait at least 40 days if you feel the urge to talk about it.
- If the constellator has suggested you do some activity after the constellation, focus on it with the intention that was mentioned for you. Honour the process.
- Allow for time to integrate what has been experienced. Hellinger has mentioned that sometimes constellations take up to two years for its full effect.
- Allow yourself to feel and release the emotions that come up after a constellation. For a while after a constellation some people may feel worse, before feeling better.
- Do not set up another constellation right away. Although it is beneficial to participate in workshops and represent or observe, it is advised that you wait some time before setting up another constellation.
- Do not ask other constellators about the constellation you did. They were not there.
- If your constellation has not reached a “happy ending” do not think it did not work. Constellations will continue to process through time at the level of the soul and sometimes a constellation that seems unresolved will generate the strength you need to continue the process in real life.